For a long time, I found myself saying “sorry” for things that didn’t actually warrant an apology. Sound familiar? Whether it was for saying no, needing rest, or taking up space—I used to shrink myself to stay “likeable.” But somewhere along the way, I realized that constantly apologizing was holding me back, not making me a better woman, mom, or entrepreneur.
If you’re trying to grow personally, professionally, or spiritually, it might be time to check what you’re apologizing for—and whether it’s serving you. Here are 7 things I stopped saying sorry for, and how doing so helped me thrive.
1. Prioritizing My Quiet Time
I used to feel guilty for taking time to pause—whether to read, pray, or just sit still. When the world around me felt nonstop, I thought stopping was selfish. But I’ve learned that space to think and be still isn’t a luxury—it’s fuel.
Now, I unapologetically schedule quiet time because I’m better for everyone when I’m grounded. Even just 15 minutes can reset your mind and spirit.
2. Saying “No” Without Explaining
People-pleasing used to be my default. I’d say yes out of guilt and then feel overwhelmed. These days, “no” is a full sentence.
You don’t owe everyone an explanation. If it’s not aligned with your priorities, or it stretches you too thin, you’re allowed to pass—kindly and clearly. Saying no more often has helped me say yes to the things that actually matter.
3. Pursuing Ambitious Goals
I used to downplay my dreams because I didn’t want to make others uncomfortable or appear “too much.” But shrinking my vision didn’t serve anyone.
Ambition isn’t arrogance. If God planted something big in your heart, it’s not too much. Go after your goals boldly, even if no one else understands the vision right away.
4. Protecting My Energy
There are certain conversations, environments, and even people that drain me. I used to push through out of obligation, but I’ve stopped apologizing for guarding my peace.
Whether it’s muting notifications, stepping back from drama, or limiting my availability—protecting your energy is a form of stewardship. You can’t pour out if you’re constantly emptied.
5. Not Doing Everything Myself
There’s this silent pressure many women carry to “do it all” without help. But asking for support isn’t weakness—it’s wisdom.
Whether it’s hiring help for your business, outsourcing cleaning, or asking your spouse to tag in—releasing the pressure to do it all has helped me thrive emotionally and physically. I now delegate without guilt.
6. Changing My Mind
Growth means changing your perspective sometimes. And yet, I used to feel bad for adjusting my goals or opinions—even when it was clearly the right move.
But changing your mind doesn’t mean you’re flaky. It means you’re paying attention, learning, and choosing better. Whether it’s ending a project, shifting your parenting style, or rethinking a partnership—it’s okay to pivot.
7. Choosing Rest Over Hustle
We’ve been told that hustle is the key to success. But burnout isn’t a badge of honor. I used to run myself into the ground and apologize if I wasn’t “doing enough.”
Now, I unapologetically rest—on purpose. I sleep. I play. I breathe. Because rest is not quitting; it’s preparing. And when I return to my work or family responsibilities, I do it refreshed and ready.
Give Yourself Permission
If any of these sound like you, consider this your nudge: You don’t need to apologize for taking care of yourself, setting boundaries, or growing into the woman God created you to be.
We weren’t meant to shrink—we were meant to shine. And sometimes, all it takes is letting go of unnecessary guilt and giving yourself permission to thrive.
